We have long forgotten how to trust each other. Gossip, Lies, exaggerations, empty promises are things that we face every day. Our shells are getting more durable; the skins are getting rough. Meanwhile, trust is an incredibly important quality that can change our attitude towards others and to ourselves. Power of Positivity talks about how trust can improve our lives and how to win it.
The meaning of the word "trust" may vary depending on people and situations. For example, a kind person who has never been betrayed will more likely believe a person who has suffered from violence in a relationship. In a business relationship, trust is much harder to earn than in interpersonal relationships.
The best relationships are built on mutual trust and respect - by Mona Sutphen.
Psychologist educator Nan S. Russell believes that when talking about trust, people mean different things: "Ask five of your friends to define trust, and you will get five different answers. There are many types of trust: trust in a professional, trust in relationships, essential trust, trust in oneself, trust in an organization, faith in a situation, and trust in a leader. "
And although there is no clear and unified definition for trust, one thing is certain for sure - certain principles of behavior contribute to the growth of confidence more than others. We list some of them:
Admit Your Mistakes
We all make mistakes, but not everyone can admit them even to ourselves, but if your goal is to build trusting relationships, you should never refuse responsibility for errors. Have you heard the phrase "Harboring is worse than a crime"? It is especially true when you try to create a trustworthy reputation for yourself.
Keep promises
Consistent and reliable behavior is the fastest way to build trust. If you promised something, keep your word with all your might. Very often, we try but pierce on trifles like laziness or an imaginary lack of time. Reduce these and similar factors to nothing, and you will see how your attitude will change.
Trust yourself
Commitment and trust are mutual actions. In the film "Meet the Parents," Jack Burns, played by Robert DeNiro, talks about the circle of trust in the Burns family: "I do not hide anything from you, and you are from me, and so on." The bottom line is that with trust, it is (except perhaps not as funny as in the movie).
Listen carefully
In the context of trust, being careful means observing, but refraining from evaluations or judgments. For example, think about the people you trust the most in life, and they will likely listen to you regardless of your mood. Now few listen carefully; therefore, this quality is so much appreciated and indispensable in building trust.
Show interest
Yes, such a seemingly insignificant action can help you gain confidence many times faster. Besides, expressing interest helps to establish and maintain contacts. If you show sincere interest in the person you are talking to, ask questions, and don't forget the answers, your chances of trusting this person are very high.
Know yourself
Self-awareness is an understanding of one's character, feelings, motives, and desires. Psychologist Nan S. Russell calls self-awareness "the golden key to the trust of others": "Often people do not realize that their actions or inaction are in itself signals to other people. It is impossible to perform conscious actions without self-awareness." You will not build a trusting relationship if your signals speak of entirely different intentions.
Act without delay
Chronic lateness, delays, and inability to plan one's time are considered unforgivable personal qualities and are regarded as disrespectful. If you do not find yourself responsible, then there will be someone who believes you as such. By such behavior, you make others doubt you, which later will necessarily call into question all your words and deeds.
Speak openly
Being open and honest is not always convenient, especially if you try to avoid conflicts (many people do this, and it's normal). Open communication becomes much more comfortable if you immediately inform about your desires, speak politely, and listen carefully. In developing trusting relationships, effective communication plays a very important, if not the most critical role.
Resolve conflicts quickly
To some extent, any conflict is detrimental to trust, so it is essential to quickly and efficiently resolve disputes in the bud before they become big monsters. However, this does not mean that you need to approach a conflict with the same aggressive attitude. Try this experiment: the next time you find yourself in a conflict, no matter how big or small, just smile politely and nod. You will be amazed at how positive this behavior has.
Be worthy of imitation.
There is no better way to build trust in a relationship than to demonstrate it in your behavior. That sounds like a very general example, but it is. Simply put, if you always tell the truth, sincere in words and actions, do not gossip, then all this will make it clear to others that they can trust you. And you - to them. Indeed, this is a "circle of trust."
