You are the most crucial person in your entire universe. After all, you live life by looking at it with your own eyes. Through them, you perceive your interactions with the world and people around you, your thoughts and interpretation of events, relationships, actions, and words. If we are talking about the general structure of things around the world, then you are only one of many. But when it comes to your understanding of reality, the only one that matters is you. Therefore, your life depends on how much you love and care about yourself. Your relationship with your self is the most determining factor in shaping precisely the experience that you live. The less you love yourself, listen to yourself and understand yourself, the more dull, evil, and disappointing your reality will be.
But, when you start to love yourself more, the more you see, do, and deal with, the more it becomes a little better in all respects. But self-love is not so pure. As they say, you are your most prominent critic. We are programmed for constant attacks of self-hatred, and for many people, they cease to be separate attacks and persist throughout our lives. When we hate ourselves more than we love, our view of the world becomes more negative. Therefore, just keep track of those moments when you love yourself and consciously keep them for a long time.
Who you are in everyday life
Remember the people from your life whom you love and respect. How do you treat them? You show kindness to them, are patient with their thoughts and ideas, and forgive them when they make a mistake. You give them space, time, and opportunity; you make sure that they have room for development because you love them and believe in their potential for growth. Now think about how do you treat yourself. Do you give yourself the love and respect that you provide to your closest friends and other significant people? Do you care about your body, mind, and needs? Here are how you can demonstrate love for your body and mind in everyday life:
- Get enough sleep
- To eat well
- Give yourself time and place to realize your spiritual nature
- Exercise regularly
- Thank yourself and others
- If necessary, play
- Avoid bad influence and bad deeds
- Engage in introspection and meditation
How much of this do you allow yourself? If not a lot, then how can you say that you truly love yourself? Self-love implies not only a state of consciousness. It is also a series of actions and habits that you introduce into everyday life. You need to show yourself that you love yourself, from the beginning to the end of each day.
Acceptance of pain
Nobody is perfect. Some of us confuse self-love with endless positivity and limitless optimism. From morning to night, such people tell everyone how beautiful everything is, regardless of how they feel or how disastrous their situation may be. And we believe that this is the right approach: does not positive energy attract even more positive energy? However, the truth is that your endless optimism is a huge lie. You are deceiving a part of yourself, ignoring the needs of half of who you are. We all have a dark side where suffering, hatred, and pain lie. When we ignore this reality, it eats us from the inside and makes us completely close spiritually and mentally. Grant yourself to be honest with who you are. Forgive yourself for past deeds, for those things that you are ashamed of. Accept the fact that sometimes you become a carrier of negative emotions such as disgust, rage, and envy. And learn to enjoy the silence when you need it.
Find and open your heart
Devote to the recognition and acceptance of pain, and learn how-to live-in peace with your cold and closed heart. Ask yourself one question: do you love yourself completely? Acceptance of one’s shortcomings and flaws is one thing, but what about loving a person who has your thoughts, emotions, atrocities, and mistakes? That is a much higher level of self-love. Look honestly at your life story. Follow your path from early childhood to the person you are now. Understand yourself as the person closest to you, and just find a reason for every negative emotion, every shameful act, every word and deed that you now regret. Do not be afraid to look into the eyes of everything that has accumulated in you. Remember that when you close your eyes to it, it remains inside.
Probably the essential thing that you will understand is that most of the manifestations of your personality exist for a reason, but have a foundation. And if there is no reason, you can refuse such aspects. For example, you may have a false perception and understanding of reality, or trauma, or a sense of being a victim. Maybe you do not see the world as it is, and you did the wrong thing only because of this. Trace the roots, study your past. Feel the love and understanding that only you can give to yourself. Stop being ashamed of your past, figure out what good it brought you.
Give the world the good that is in you
After you realize and acknowledge your dark side, the light will begin to shine on the pearls and talents stored inside you: empathy, spiritual essence, sense of humour, love - all that doesn’t leave a chance for bad things. Use and show exactly these qualities when interacting with the world and other people. That is why it is necessary to learn how to love yourself.
The main step in the science of self-love is to accept yourself as you are. Follow the signs and love yourself.
