How to achieve inner peace and personal calmness
We can strive for our peace consciously or unconsciously, but the inner world often acts as a motivator of our actions. We are always drawn to do what gives us pleasure and makes life easier. Even if we are talking about very destructive behavior, still the goal with us, as a rule, is "to make us feel better."
Try to imagine inner peace as a spiritual savings account. Every time you come across precisely what you felt you should have done already, be sure to pay attention to this; if put off for later, these seemingly insignificant questions subconsciously deprive you of spiritual energy. And when you do realize what seems necessary to you, an increase in personal peace of mind is observed every time.
Different ways to achieve the state of the inner peace
Find beauty in your immediate surroundings. The most talented among us manage to find beauty in almost everything. It can be a human face, possibly a blooming flower, sunrise, or sunset. Just start to notice the subtle nuances of everything that surrounds you. When you do not spare time to admire something that captures your imagination, a natural state of peace appears.
The practice of gratitude cannot be overestimated. It switches the coordinate system from which you look at the world. As a result, you are forming an optimistic mindset. As soon as such an approach becomes habitual, not a single life experience is no longer in vain. An infinite calm form inside you, because you know that everything that happens carries something valuable. Start keeping a gratitude diary: list 3-5 things in its daily for which you are grateful. After some time, keeping a journal in writing will no longer be required. You will begin to express gratitude during the day just like that, even if you do not write anything. Gratitude is a component of inner peace.
Forgive those who hurt you. It brings peace of mind and frees you from unnecessary anger. Forgiving and letting go is very important. Deep thoughts and meditations allow a person to remain mindful and keep thoughts clear and transparent. We cannot force ourselves or demand from our minds to instantly come to a state of calm, but we can prepare it to stop thoughts. Meditation makes the mind to calm down and renew itself. And negative thoughts only increase fears and anger.
Show kindness at home and in all other places. Make a healthy lifestyle. When we show personal kindness towards someone, the only real reward we receive for this is a feeling of deep satisfaction and peace. Remember the energy leak? People, too, can take it from you. Note the people you're full of energy after talking with and the people who make you feel exhausted. Maybe it makes sense to reduce contacts with specific individuals. Another option: just start interacting with them differently.
Perhaps you empathize with them more than it should in terms of your mental health. If you start to talk differently, it can affect them, and they will begin to behave differently.
The comfort zone is a cell of mediocrity. It is impossible to find personal peace if you live within the limitations imposed on yourself. You know, when you do less than you could. It's about trying to put on the clothes you wore when you were eight years old. Leave yourself room for growth and try something new. That is the only way to know who you really are. Something unexpected can happen and make a strong impression on you, "hook" you - and you will understand something new for yourself and reconsider your look at yourself and, as a result, ways of self-expression.
Stop demanding anything from other people and assuming that they owe you something. Suppose you had a small child who is still helpless. Should you take care of him? No, they should not, although, for many, this may sound blasphemous. The fact that you love him and want to care, or feel responsible - this is another thing, not the same as "must."
If you are aware of this difference, you will automatically have fewer reasons for worries and worries. When you do not live out of a sense of duty, but out of deep-seated emotional impulses, life takes on new colors, and there is a feeling that "the load fell off your shoulders."
The most important, though, to have inner peace is the presence of responsibility. You need to understand that all the experience through which you go through may or may not lie in the sphere of your direct control. But how you perceive it is always your choice. It is essential to realize this part of yourself, which makes a choice and is responsible. Otherwise, personal peace will forever remain something that you will wait for it to come to you by itself. Inner peace can be found wherever you are.
You just need to really want it.
