Relationships at work show us who we are. And if you do not like colleagues, then this is good a reason to think about what needs to be changed in your attitude or behavior, as complicated relationships at work can ruin any career. So how to establish contact with colleagues and stay yourself?
Outside of work, we can choose with whom to communicate, and with whom - not. But the office is a place where communication is mandatory. Colleagues are united by one company, profession, or interests, but they can differ significantly in character, needs, values, age, and culture.
Communication styles in the team
Leader
That is a responsible person who confidently goes to the goals. He acts quickly and can lead others. He has strategic thinking and communication skills; he can motivate and inspire. The essence of the leader's working relationship is that he finds and unites people who are professionals in a particular field. In this case, the leader may be wrong, but able to learn from mistakes.
How to find a common language with a leader: to speak essentially and briefly, to act effectively.
Communicator
Quickly finds a common language with almost anyone, knows how to negotiate. Flexible, able to listen, and talk. Maybe a mentor for leaders. He prefers positions in work where he can prove himself as a negotiator, communicate a lot with people. If the profession does not imply this, he can take on social responsibilities, organize events, and establish good workplace relationships.
How to find a common language with a communicator: to be open to communication, celebrate its achievements, appreciate the care.
Adventurer
That is a bright, creative person who cannot stand the rules and conventions. The team loves him, although there are people whom he annoys. He has developed intuition, and he may find amazing ideas or solutions. He values freedom, most of all. He manifests himself in the design work, where he can organize a hard load for himself, and then rest to fame.
Types of working relationships, where there are authoritarianism, uniformity, and orderliness, oppress him. He always needs new experiences and challenges.
How to find a common language with the adventurer: to be sincere, support new ideas, and accept it as it is.
Reliable worker
Responsible, diligent, first of all, think about work. He is organized, specific, neat, punctual. Rarely changes jobs. He can be trusted; he will do everything in his power to fulfill his tasks. Serious about any work entrusted.
How to find a common language with a reliable employee: to be punctual, accurate, to fulfill your duties, not to say too much.
Of course, there are other communication styles; above are described only the most striking. Sometimes a person can combine several methods, and this gives him advantages.
Good relationships at work: how to achieve them?
Here are some simple recommendations to help you feel comfortable and confident in interacting with colleagues.
- Observe the working atmosphere. Remember that, first of all, you came to work – no discussion of personal problems, leave your own life for friends.
- Do not pass gossip. The team often has people who like to discuss someone behind their backs. Do not get involved in these conversations and, do not pass on the gossip further. Remember that they can also consider you. Maintain a neutral working relationship with chatters.
- Find the middle ground in communication. The offices do not like too closed people who do not communicate with anyone and talkers. The latter distract others from work, annoy and give the impression of loafers, although they think that they are establishing interpersonal relationships with colleagues.
- Be polite and considerate. Often people do not greet colleagues and allow themselves tactless questions regarding personal life, appearance, or health. Even if you are friends with someone, at official events or in front of subordinates, it is better to contact each other formally.
- Follow corporate rules. There are prescribed standards for routines, responsibilities, communication features inside and outside the company, employee appearance, etc. There are also unwritten rules – for example, a neckline or miniskirts are unlikely to be appropriate at work. If you are a beginner, observe how it is customary to dress and communicate at work, how working relationships are built.
- Know the difference between subordination and groveling. It is essential to show respect for the bosses, not to contact the higher boss bypassing your direct boss. At the same time, do not overdo it with flattery – nobody likes grovelers.
- Avoid criticism. Look for other ways to tell people what you want from them. First, pay attention to what was done correctly, and then you can use the questions in the style of "what and how can be improved?" Moreover, do not criticize anyone behind their back. It will ruin your working relationship.
- Be positive! Try to pay attention to your colleagues' merits, look for the pros in any situation, tell positive news, and smile more often. That does not mean that you need to wear pink glasses and ignore the dark sides. Problems need to be discussed, but constructively. And if you will be the one who rejoices for others, someone will also enjoy for you.
- Be attentive to colleagues. Explore those around you. Mary loves tulips - so give them to her for her birthday. James always talks about his beloved daughter - tell him that you saw a new cool attraction for children. People appreciate such attention and will be happy to create good relationships with you at work.
- Help when you are in need. Helping each other is essential. If you see that someone needs help, but don't ask for it, politely ask if you can help with something. You need to do this unobtrusively and benevolently, without humiliating a colleague and not painting: "Oh, what nonsense, what, you can't handle?"
